marriage 1o1 series

 

Marriage is a mutual agreement between two or more individual to live as a couple or live together no matter the challenges they get to endure in life to make it work.  Taking
upon such big every couple needs to uphold the following ingredients for their marriage to survive; good communication, mutual sense of understanding, love, honesty and trust among the partners, care and intimacy yet more often it lacks or one partners denials the other their conjugal rights.

According to a marriage research report made in Denmark in 2019. In accordance with the report, I wish to get into details on the issue of marriage break up. It right to acknowledge man is a social being, and feeling loved and wanted is something that we want to experience of in our live time, and there comes a time in everyone’s life, that one falls in love and also there moments ones falls out of love and in the process, finds someone better than the current partner and therefore opt to end their relationship sooner than expected to accommodate the new one.

There are individuals who get to live life like it’s a fare tale instead of living the reality. Bearing in mind how fragile life is and hence the need to live, bearing no regrets what so ever.

There are a number of reasons ranging from: infidelity, lack of sex, physical or emotional abuse that lead to people falling apart. Couples having different point of view on matters relationship can also cause disagreement, which may or may not lead to a break up. Lacks of finances and mismanagement of it, is also a major factor to consider.

For instance, whereby one partner gets to provide and keep striving to meet all the necessary basics needs and want for their families often, such an individual grows tired and experience burnout and unless such a person is helped, he or she might continuously see their partner as their major source of stress and anxiety, and in order to relieve themselves this burden the choose to undertake a break up or a divorce without bearing in mind what effects it come with expect where children are involved.  

Apart from good communication, intimacy is at the core to every relationship or marriage and a change in it or lack of it may lead to a breakup or a rise in cases of infidelity among couples, and when this happens trust that was binding the relationship is broken, once a partner seeks to indulge him or herself elsewhere to fulfill their desires. And once such trust is broken it’s hard to rebuild it back.  Its wish to note, Infidelity results to 20-40% marriage breakup.

Abuse is a sad reality, with a lead of 23.5% in break up. Abuse on its own is portrayed in different forms it can either be; physically, emotionally, verbal-treats or controlling or limiting ones rights and freedom.

Its’ human nature to hide and conceal ones flaws, weakness and   faults from the rest of the world, and in the process, making an abused person to continuously stay in unhealthy relationship far too long than expected believing the abusers will change.

Any child born into an abusive marriage more often grow up to be violent and takes it, as norm to be abusive to their partner. Verbal treats could be the use of harsh words either towards you or your children such as; “I will kill you” if one finds oneself in such a situation it’s highly recommended to leave such a relationship as soon as possible for your safety and that of their loved ones.

For there are times you will find either of the partners husband or wife been restricted from going outside the conferment of their building to either  talk to  their relatives  or even make a call or  even at time have visitors  come visit hence limiting ones freedom of association and right to movement. Taking into consideration this are some of the facts affecting marriages and hence, resulting into either a break up ,separation or even into a costly and nasty divorce ,it’s upon us to continuously uphold the institution of marriage under the key element of good communication, trust and good conflict resolution  management for a long healthy relationships to strive.