Sibling rivalry / parenting 1o1

 

It’s a continuous worrying trend, seen within families, where by children born of the same parent, can’t stand each other nor work together, and always holding grudges against each other on malicious ground and no probable clause. As a Result an endless state of animosity and disunity between family members sprout. And widens’ the ridge, between families.

It’s important to note, the familial bond, last a lifetime, parents are the key to helping build a strong foundation, to raise a healthy and social family. And it’s often tested to see how strong, loving and united you are as a family.

To cultivate, a healthy and strong familial bond, it’s necessary that, there be peace, love and oneness among the members. Failure to which, disunity, disagreements and conflicts settles in, either between siblings, or even among close relatives. Families are supposed to be founded and anchored together on love. And lack of it, results into dispute.

As a parent, one is obligated to see to it that your interaction with your children doesn’t fuel sibling rivalry. It’s understandable as a parent; one may tend to love one child more, in reference to another. Such practices, has more often brought about sibling rivalry.

The best scenario and a case study is that of Jacob and Joseph, a biblical account. Whereby Jacob, openly and undeniably showed more love and affection to Joseph compare to his other sons, as a result his sons conspired to have joseph killed, but later sold him as a slave to Egypt, in an effort to draw their fathers’ love and affection towards them.         

To alleviate, this problem, it’s important that a parent makes its clear, that their love and affection towards his or her children is equally shown and felt, since sibling love, is often great  within, those raised and taught together the value of love, unity and oneness, since they learn about each other’s strengths and weakness. And, if this kind of bond is not nurtured appropriately, it can easily be a tool to be used to scatter and divided an entire family apart.

For there to be a division, between siblings it only requires planting the seed of jealousy and hatred, and constantly watering it with, false accusations and baseless allegations, and everything holding a family together will shatter.

It’s important to note, as siblings, you are not in competition, with each other, but in spirit of winning together. In order to, bring growth, honor, respect, wealth and prosperity among yourself and to your families.

As a parent, note its’ unwise and unethical to discriminate and compare your children on the merits of their financial strength, and contribution towards the family’s’ revenue bucket. Remember, financial contribution may vary, based on the currents of the economy market, ones’ employment status.

It’s with deep pain, to see that families would rather not gather together, since ones value and open opinion on an issue is directly measurable to what percentage of financial contributions made. All these, shows what kind of hypocrisy is within a family set, and it wouldn’t amend a broken bond among siblings rather it would   create greater ridge. 

On matters of inheritance, sibling rivalry has also been seen sprouting. As a parent, with hefty finances and   diverse resources, it’s wise to leave a written and legal binding will, clearly stating to whom you have legally allocate certain estates, properties, finances and responsibilities after your demise.

Also, let it be clear that, as  a bonfire beneficiaries, to whom certain duties and responsibilities have been allocated, learn to respect the outcome of the WILL, and not fight over who or what should have been allocated to you. For, it’s in your best interest, and that of the family, that resources were assigned in a certain way.

 Aiming, that for there to be continuity in growth and prosperity in the family, all aspect need to work together to bring in results.

Therefore, as a parent or child within a family, it’s wise and acceptable to see and hold each other as equal human beings, who deserve to be loved, honored, respected and cherish for who they are, and not based on what one brings to the table.